In the last
essay of Book I of his Essays titled “Of
Age” Montaigne talks about age and ageing. In this essay he discusses two
themes: The right age to die and the right age to do something. As for the
first, he tells us about Cato the Younger, who “said … to
those who would stay his hand from killing himself, am I now of an age to be
reproached that I go out of the world too soon?” And then Montaigne adds: “And yet
he was but eight-and-forty years old.” This remark is a bit strange, for when in 1571 Montaigne
retired from public
life to this castle, he wrote on the wall of his study that he would spend there “what little remains of his life”. However,
Montaigne was then only 38 years old, but he did as if he was already an old
man. This illustrates that age is a relative idea and that you are as old as
you feel. Some are apparently already old at the age of 48, while others are still
“young” at the age of 100. I told you once about Robert Marchand, who stayed cycling
almost till his death at the age of 109. 105 years old, he still felt fit
enough to set up a world record in one-hour track cycling (see here),
so at an age that most of us will not reach. Nonetheless, if a person dies “already”
at the age of, say, 96 or 87, nobody will call this a premature death, though
one would say so nowadays when a person dies at the age of 48, like Cato, or 59,
like Montaigne. This raises the question what a “normal” age to die is. I think
that such an answer cannot be given. It depends on the time in which you live,
the country and the average age of dying in your country and on some other
factors.
If there isn’t
a normal age to die, is there then something like a “normal” death? I think
that most of us will consider a normal death dying in your own bed in your own
house, weakened by a high age, weary of life. Is it really normal? No, so Montaigne:
Isn’t it “a kind of death of all others the most rare and very seldom seen? We
call that only a natural death; as if it were contrary to nature to see a man
break his neck with a fall, be drowned in shipwreck, be snatched away with a
pleurisy or the plague, and as if our ordinary condition did not expose us to
these inconveniences. … [However]; we ought rather, peradventure, to call that
natural which is general, common, and universal. To die of old age is a death
rare, extraordinary, and singular, and, therefore, so much less natural than
the others.” What should I add?
The other
theme in “Of Age” is the right age to do something. For instance, what is the legal
marriage age? In the Netherlands you must be 18 years old at least. Once your
parents had to consent when you were not yet 30 years old; later this age was 21,
and now you don’t need your parents’ consent any longer. However, the marriageable
age varies according to country, culture and time. Even child marriages happen
or happened. Other examples of age limits are the compulsory school age, the
age to get a driver’s license, the age that employers must pay an adult wage, or,
on the opposite side of life, the retirement age.
Many age limits
separate young and adult, and they illustrate that adulthood is a relative
affair. Montaigne himself thinks that “our souls are
adult at twenty as much as they are ever like to be, and as capable then as
ever.” Even more, Montaigne thinks that “a soul that has not by that time given
evident earnest of its force and virtue will never after come to proof. The
natural qualities and virtues produce what they have of vigorous and fine,
within that term or never.” And if it is not when you are 20 years old, “of all
the great human actions I ever heard or read of, of what sort soever, I have
observed, both in former ages and our own, more were performed before the age
of thirty than after”. It’s what many people often thought and maybe still
think. True, many scientists did their most important discoveries before the
age of 30 (Einstein is a case in point), but generally it is not so, also not
for scientists. Many qualities need time to ripen, and many people often become
good just at a later age, when the right combination of creativity, knowledge,
reflection, social experience and the like has developed.
Anyway, after the age of 30 the physical decay of human
beings sets in. And mentally? Many older people say, for example at the age of
60: Physically I have become older. My body cannot do any longer what I could
do when I was young. Mentally, however, I am still the same as when I was 20
years old. Is it true? Maybe it feels so, but it’s an illusion. Also your mind gradually
decays; or at least it changes. Also in your head you don’t stay the same young
girl or guy you once were. As Montaigne says, it can even happen that the mind faster
submits to age than the body, but when this happens, people often don’t notice
it and then “so much greater is the danger”. It’s an illusion to think that
mentally you don’t change through the years. You shouldn't fool yourself.
Monday, June 20, 2022
The right age
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I became interested in philosophy and pursuit thereof after age fifty. It was not a matter of boredom with a former occupation, or even a search for a new one. My driving desire? Trying harder to think better and do the best I can with what I have and know. Realizing I needed to know more, a reading campaign ensued. Out with escapist fiction, escapades of starship troopers and such; in with deeper investigation of concepts: truth,reality, consciousness, self and so on. I wanted to retrain my mind, immerse my thinking in different facts, theses, hypotheses and theories. After reading Kenneth Burke, I was hooked. Now,I look into and formulate ideas on things like complexity; contextual reality; and other time-tested topics mentioned before. While my accomplishments may be pedestrian, I have walked further than my friends. Will keep on walking, so long as I can.
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